If you’ve been reading this blog for very long, you may have picked up on the fact that I have a weekly phone date with my dad.
It started years ago with a phone call.
I really don’t remember why I called him that night. All through our conversation, I just kept thinking he just didn’t seem quite right to me. At that time he was 76, and I hadn’t talked to him in a while, so I wrote if off as him having a bad day, or maybe being a little tired. Two days later the call came that he was in the hospital with a massive brain hemorrhage. That’s when I decided that the occasional call wasn’t good enough anymore. Life is unpredictable, and no matter how long we have with loved ones, once they’re gone, it was never enough.
We’ve been talking every week for 10 years now. There are some stories (especially from his military days) that I’ve heard at least a hundred times. And when he says “did I tell you about…?” I always say, “I’m not sure I remember that one.“. This isn’t a lie. There are always parts I forget, but more importantly, there are always parts the he forgets. Every once in a while he remembers something from that ‘same-ole’-story’ that’s new, and I learn something else about my father.
Over the years my dad has imparted some real gems of wisdom (whether he realizes it or not). This morning was one of those times. We were getting ready to end the call, when dad said,
“Well, I guess we ought to get up and do something,
even if it’s wrong.“.
Those words were just a valediction, but I’ve been struggling with some stuff lately, and they hit me particularly hard. I felt an immediate desire to write them down.
Looking back, I started kicking myself for not writing more of these down over the years. I know there have been a few obvious gems, but today’s words… how many of those bits of insight have I missed just because I wasn’t listening? With that thought in mind, this just became #60, of my 101 things. Hopefully this is just the first of many posts to come about the Things My Father Says…
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